This blog has become so much mroe than it originally was planned to be, and I really need to get back to working on it now that I finally am feeling more like myself again, and feel like my life is a bit more mine rather than Grief’s finally.

I want to write more about Babyloss, as I have felt for a long time, and feel even more strongly now, that it’s taboo and really shouldn’t be.

I also plan to do more writing about my health issues, not just from my experiences, but getting better info out there.

My other plan is to write more about sex ed, as I feel there is a lot that just isn’t known… I have friends and relatives who ask me questions about infections and pregnancy and things, and that knowledge needs to become more mainstream. Also about anatomy and how the body works, as I’ve only really started to understand in the past 4 years or so, and even now I’m still just scratching the surface, and these things really need to be understood!

And, I’ll likely write about sex and chronic illness and pain, and about sex with my specific health issues, and those posts will include personal things…. don’t worry, I will make it VERY obvious when those posts come up, so that no one who doesn’t want to know the more intimate details of our sex lives won’t have to…. this is something Johnny and I talked about a couple years ago and I’ve just never gotten around to… and I REALLY want to do those posts, as I feel these issues aren’t talked about enough!

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Here’s the real reason we never go …

Mal: We are not gonna die. You know why? Because we are so… very… pretty. We are just too pretty for God to let us die. Huh? Look at that chiseled jaw!

I’m going to share a link to a blog post that really touched me today (thanks go to Sonja for sharing it with me)….This post ( When I’m understood I’m healed needs to be read by everyone, it is incredible.

Also known as “Love, Sex, and Chronic Illness” (Thanks for that title Sonja)

So Sonja, Johnny and I had a conversation a couple of ours ago that Sonja and I decided should be a blog post… I can’t take credit for the whole post, it was a threeway effort! 😛

I’m just going to copy and paste our conversation… when it’s one of the things I said and I have quotes around it that means it’s something Johnny said that I typed for him.

Oh, something I need to explain before I share the conversation – the reason we tease Johnny about having an “endo fetish” is because Duckling and Gamer’s mom has endo and obviously so do I. And the reason he joked about a sickie fetish is because the ex between Duckling and Gamer’s mom and him ending up with me isn’t healthy either. I suspect endometriosis (she was a friend of mine, as well as my ex sister in law, so I know about her issues, and the fact that it runs in her family) but no one actually knows what was going on with her, and she also just isn’t the healthiest girl ever…

Sonja says:
i think my boobs are getting bigger
(.)(.) are now ( . ) ( . )
lol

Jenny says:
LOL!

Sonja says:
alex was weirded out

Jenny says:
mine have been too, but not that much

Sonja says:
after my shower i was like “do they look bigger to you?”
wtf mom? ewwwwwww

Jenny says:
LOL!!!
Johnny says the breast fairy visited while you were sleeping and gave you an enlargement
and “The only thing the cat worries about is if tuna comes out of them”

Sonja says:
LOL!
and you’re ok with Johnny thinking about my tits?
that’s right!
my endo is back!
it’s his fetish!

Jenny says:
He’s shaking his head at you
“Must be huh?”

Sonja says:
hehehehe
i’m horrible

Jenny says:
yes

Jenny says:
I’m now teasing him about his endo fetish

Sonja says:
lol

Jenny says:
he said “no, it must be a sicky fetish” and we’re joking back and forth

Sonja says:
lol

Jenny says:
of course I had to make sure he knows I’m teasing him too

Sonja says:
yeah

Jenny says:
that could be one hell of a sensitive topic
I know it’s not, but it could be

Sonja says:
S&M in your guys’ case stans for sick and medicated
right

Jenny says:
LOL!
I’m eating, my mouth is full I can’t read it to him right now (mac and cheese)

Sonja says:
awww

Jenny says:
“Indeed”
I started laughing and couldn’t explain

Sonja says:
lol

Jenny says:
“And the b&d would be bedded and disoriented?”

Sonja says:
LOL yep!
lol jeez

Jenny says:
maybe I should turn on the webcam and we can all discuss this lol

Sonja says:
lol oh god no

Jenny says:
LOL!

Sonja says:
i can’t get hot and bothered yet
i’m thinking this could be a great blog post for you tho

Jenny says:
“That’s horrible”
and I am thinking so!

Sonja says:
and yes, it is horrible
lortab def makes me a little more demented. like my filters are just gone lol

Jenny says:
LOL!
I know the feeling!

Sonja says:
“Love, Sex, and Chronic Illness” or something
i’d totally link to it too

Jenny says:
LOL! I was going with I love my husband and friends (because I was going to mention a conversation with sara as well)

Sonja says:
that works too!

Jenny says:
But I like your title better since I can’t find the one with sara

Sonja says:
ah
if we don’t laugh, we cry right?

A friend of mine texted me tonight asking for some advice on a situation a friend of hers is going through. I can’t give details (as I don’t have them, and would respect the wishes of this woman if I did) but my friend was talking to a woman she knows who has some health problems and found out that this woman has to have some medical procedures done that are going to cost quite a bit and she is in a position where things are really tough without the added expenses. I don’t know exactly what’s going on, but this woman is embarrassed by her situation and by needing to ask for help, as well as by the health issues… she has a chronic autoimmune disease that can be quite serious, and she is having some serious complications (hence the medical procedures that are needed). I’m just going to quote the text I got earlier to make the situation as clear as I can without giving anything away. “how would you do a fund raiser or benefit dinner for someone who needs help with medical bills, who doesnt want anyone to know whats wrong with her? Any ideas?”
I told my friend that I’d ask around and see if I could get any ideas, but my response was “I’m not sure you really could do much without giving at least minor details” … because really, I’m not sure people are going to be willing to help without having some sort of idea as to what is happening. If anyone has any thoughts they would be greatly appreciated… both so that the information is out there for women in similar situations, and so that we can help this woman. Whatever is going on it sounds like she could really use some help.
Thanks in advance for any advice you can give!